WHEN GOD DOES THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT WE ‘BEG’ HIM TO DO…

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I have just returned from a silent retreat in one of the most beautiful places on earth, Goedgedacht.  It was led by Trevor Hudson, pastor, author and retreat giver.

I went on this retreat with a deep sense of expectation and excitement, in the hope of meeting God on a deeper level, and that hope became a reality. I have a renewed sense of how much I am loved by God and a burning desire in my heart to grow into the woman He created me to be. He is slowly revealing the vision He had for my life at birth and I have the utmost assurance that as I continue to seek Him

“God, who began the good work within me, will continue His work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.”  (Phillipians 1:6)

So it was with a feeling of joy that I walked into the little chapel this morning, where we had been gathering, to participate in communion before we all left to go our separate ways.  The chairs were organised in a large circle and facing me was Trevor with one chair free on his right, the only other available chair was in the middle of the circle.

In front of Trevor was a little table with one big Communion cup together with the bread on a plate and I felt my heart sink.  And, this is where I have to make a confession – I have never been able to drink out of a shared Communion cup and am so thankful that in our church we use those lovely, civilized, little glasses for our Communion ‘wine’.  The thought of drinking out of a cup filled with everyone else’s germs and backwash makes me shudder.  In the past, when faced with this scenario, I have taken the cup and pretended to drink out of it but my lips have never touched the rim of the cup.  I have always felt guilty about this but not even that  guilt has been enough to make me actually drink from the cup!

As I stood in the doorway I had a quick debate with myself – in which direction would Trevor pass the cup.  To the left or to the right? Somehow passing it to the right just made more sense so I went and sat in the chair next to  him.  My prayer to God was as follows:

“Lord, this has been such a beautiful weekend.  I have really felt touched by you. It would be so amazing if you would reinforce this joy in me.  I really want to participate in the communion.  Please make Trevor pass the bread and the cup in my direction.  It would be such a wonderful confirmation that you do hear my prayers and a lovely end to the weekend!”

Trevor took up the bread, my phobia overtook me and I started to beg God  “please, please make him pass it to me first”.

He blessed the bread and passed it to his left.  He blessed the Communion cup and passed it to his left.  I did a quick count… twenty-four people were going to drink from that cup before it reached me!

It was then that God revealed His Father heart to me and it went like this:

“Noel, if you are going to follow me, truly follow me – if you want to learn more about me then you are going to have to deny yourself and take up my cross and follow in my footsteps, walk where I walk.  You are going to have to learn to take on the diseases and germs of the human race, to reach out and touch those who backwash, to share your life with those who are suffering because only in doing so will they see Me, will they know My love, reflected through you. And only in doing so will you grow in your knowledge of Me, will you grow in your relationship with Me”.

The twenty-fourth person handed me the cup with these words “this is the blood of our Lord Jesus Christ shed for you” and I took the cup from her hands, thanked her, looked deep into the depths of God’s love and took a huge gulp.

‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.’ 2 Corinthians 12:9

New book by Trevor Hudson Friendship with God

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ISAIAH 40:31

But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint.

Lord Jesus, I pray that I would become more aware of you, more aware of how I spend my time and I ask that you will guide me and lead me along the path that you have ordained for me.  I pray, Lord, that as I spend time with you, I too, will rise up and soar spiritually.  Amen

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NEW BEGINNINGS!

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“Books allowed my imagination to take flight and it hasn’t landed yet.  Every book begins with PAGE ONE”.

It reminded me so much of life.  We can only live ONE DAY at a time and that ONE DAY should be lived to the fullest of our imagination.

Life is like a book.  It has many different chapters.  One bad chapter doesn’t mean it’s the end!  There are still many blank pages that you can write on.

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. (Matthew 6:34)

Therefore, if anyone in in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!  (2 Corinthians 5:17)

Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.  See, I am doing a new thing!  Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?  I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.  (Isaiah 43:18 & 19)

SIGN AT  HONG KONG AIRPORT

SIGN AT HONG KONG AIRPORT

 

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DAMAGED – by Amy Curry

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Sue Allen has worked in the small post office on the corner of Bird Drive since she was 21, she is now 41. It is a quiet post office, which asks and expects little from her. She likes the fact that the manager still does not know her name and switches it from Sarah to Cindy regularly, despite the name tag she wears.

Sue Allen’s job pays a good enough sum to support her uneventful life. She has enough money to pay for her one room apartment and the food she eats, as well as the cat food she buys for the neighbours, fat, irritable ginger cat who essentially lives with her, and who she doesn’t have the heart to throw out, despite her raging allergies.

Every day, for the past 20 years, Sue Allen has arrived at work in the morning, hung up her coat and proceeded to the room she fondly thinks of as her own. Sue Allen sorts out the postal packages that have been damaged on their trips, she feels through the envelope for the extent of their damage before stamping the bright red “Return to sender” stamp onto it. This is a perfectly boring job, ideal for someone who lacks curiosity of any kind.

Sue Allen is allowed to open the packages if she feels closer inspection is called for. This has only happened upon two occasions. Occasions, Sue Allen remembers vividly for their rude disruption of her orderly day. The first had been a crudely-made bird house, a gift from a eager grandchild to a grandmother. The roof of the house had been torn apart, not surprising as it seemed to be stuck together solely with tape. Sue Allen had been sad to send this back, especially after reading the note attached to it, signed by, “Your bestest grandchild.”

The second misshapen package was a framed picture of a couple kissing. A feeling of anger and resentment had risen up at the sight of the lovers’ embrace. She’d violently resealed it and stamped the envelope. She pretended the pain she felt had come from the cut she’d received upon pulling the frame out and not the raw pain caused from the feeling that you are not loved.

It was with apprehension that Sue Allen halted her dutiful work. She let her fingers move around the package she held, feeling the broken shards within it. Obviously the item had been smashed beyond repair. She reached for the stamp, then stopped. The unfamiliar feeling of curiosity bubbled up into her fingertips and begged to be satisfied. Before she could stop them, they had sliced open the envelope and let the insides come tumbling out. She was left with a disturbing mess, the product of curiosity.

They were pieces of some sort of tile, broken as if they had been stamped on. This couldn’t have happened in the post, these mutilated insides must have been deliberately smashed before they were put in. She shook her head at the absurdity of sending damaged goods. She picked a piece up, it resembled the pupil of an eye, turning the tiles up she realised they were the broken pieces of a face. She quickly set to work with an uncharacteristic look of glee upon her face.

She stepped back to view her masterpiece. It was the face of a woman, wrinkles had just begun to crease her skin and her hair had started greying. Her eyes were a startling light blue. The sun was hitting the tile, from the corner window of the small room; it gave her the impression of winking at Sue Allen. The expression of profound sadness stained her features. Sue Allen wondered at this sadness, she reached for the letter that had accompanied the woman.

It was lovingly addressed and said, “You think you are so broken right now, but look, my darling, you can be put back together.” Sue Allen began to cry. Her tears splattered onto this beautiful note and the beautiful tiled face of the woman. She realised it was not damaged goods she worked with every day; but rather goods in need of repair. Sue Allen had come across the epiphany that people were not damaged either, simply in need of repair by someone else’s loving hand or even their own.

 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.  (Psalms 147:3)

Story by Amy Curry

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BOW TIE SUNDAY

Photo courtesy of Lilla Amos

Photo courtesy of Lilla Amos

Tomorrow  William D. Carter III leaves us to go back to the States to continue his studies at  Princeton Theological Seminary. William has lived these past eleven weeks, here in South Africa, to the fullest and has brought much laughter, many Godly sermons, beautiful music and much more into our lives.  Yesterday he preached his last sermon at Mowbray Presbyterian Church , well his last sermon for this visit, that is!  We are confident he will be back again!

Photo courtesy of Lilla Amos

Photo courtesy of Lilla Amos

One of William’s trademarks is his penchant for wearing bow ties, so in honour of him, the gentlemen wore bow ties to church yesterday morning.

The following is an excerpt from William’s sermon:

The God that we serve wants us to be renewed in our faith. He wants us to have that unmovable faith, the type of faith that believes against the odds, the type of faith that sees the impossible, that is the impossible. I just don’t talk about faith – I live faith. I have an experienced faith. I have witnessed faith.

That is what we call faith, the substance of things hoped for the evidence of things not seen. It’s not seen with your eyes but it is seen with your spirit because, “If you don’t see it, before you see it, you won’t see it.”

He ended his sermon with a prayer for us, as a congregation:

It is my prayer that you would become a better community of faith, ensuring the efficiency and effectiveness thereof. It is my prayer that you would allow God to direct your way, to direct you in your purpose, in your destiny, into all that He has ordained for your life.

I pray that God will increase your love for one another, even the one you don’t like, I pray that you get it right. I pray that you mend broken relationships. I pray that healing stops by your house. I pray that peace stops by and eats Sunday dinner with you today. I pray that you don’t look at one another as White Dave, Black William, Colored Kenny, Domestic Worker Nombooso and Professor Trevor, I pray that you not see class and color but see one another as Children of the Most High God!

Lastly, may you walk in holiness and try your best to be as blameless as possible. To the best of your ability, live a life that is pleasing in the sight of God… And remember that just like the Thessalonians, God will always take care of you.

It is my prayer that God will interrupt your plans, that He will inconvenience you as you go about scheduling the plans that you have for your life. It is my prayer that you will be interrupted by God reminding you that “God will take care of you! Through every day, over all the way, God will take care of you!”

I encourage you to write, write books, write more books, teach one another, step out of your comfort zone, take a risk, invest in one another, dance in the rain, allow your voice to be heard because somebody needs to hear from you, sit among the people, love one another, listen to the stories of one another, affirm one another, make plans but leave room for God to step in and make alterations. And may you never forget that no matter how far you feel away from God, God has, and will take care of you.

Thank you for having me… God Bless You, until we meet again. Amen!

Our prayer for William is that he will continue to be obedient to the guiding of the Holy Spirit, that the words of his mouth and the meditations of his heart will always be acceptable in God’s sight. Our prayer is the same prayer found in Ephesians 3:

We pray that out of God’s glorious riches He will strengthen William with power through His Spirit in his inner being so that Christ may dwell in his heart through faith.  That William will be rooted and established in love, that he may have the power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep the love of Christ is and to know this love that surpasses knowledge – that he may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.  Amen!

You are going to be missed,William!

You can read more about the time William D. Carter III  spent in South Africa on the following links:

MEETING ARCHBISHOP (EMERITUS) DESMOND TUTU!

ONE OF THE MANY PERKS TO BEING A CHRISTIAN!

YOU’RE RIGHT ON TRACK!

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ROSE COLORED GLASSES

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“I love and most importantly, respect my husband. Yes, there are small things that drive me mad, there always will be, and I’m sure the same could be said for him. But, and this is what some forget, they were part of the person you fell in love with and so part of the attraction. Comprises and a good sense of humour as well as love on both sides make a couple strong. Marriage is not all smooth sailing as the media and movies portray, it can be an incredibly rocky winding path with lots of hidden dangers (for want of a better word), but working through these makes us better people and gives us a stronger bond. I could not see myself without my husband, he makes me a better person as I hope I do him. Those that fail in their marriage after trying and trying have a long hard road ahead for it damages the whole family and they get nothing but compassion and love from me, plus a big cheer and support…”  – Karen McConkey  Court

The above is a comment that a friend of mine made after reading my article Making your Marriage Last.

When we first fall in love we usually see each other through ‘rose-colored glasses’ – that is – we see each other as being more pleasant than we actually are! None of us are perfect and yet during that love-struck phase we day dream constantly about each other and can see no wrong in the other person. This stage of the relationship inevitably (and sadly) has to wear off once the neuro-transmitters in our brain settle down.

It is once we are married, settled into a routine, having to work every day and pay bills, do housework and shopping, have children that reality really hits home hard. It is at this time that we consciously have to say to ourselves about our partner, “I can accept those faults and make allowances for them;” “I choose not to let certain habits that my partner has upset me or irritate me;” “I choose to concentrate on all the good characteristics my partner has.”

It all goes back to that age old saying:

Love is not a feeling, it is an act of your will.

Some good verses to keep in mind once the irritations of daily living starts encroaching on your feelings for your spouse and you feel like throwing in the towel are:

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work:  If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.”  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

Marriage is a partnership. Two people supporting each other, defending each other and keeping each other warm during those times when life’s sorrows and challenges become overwhelming.

Always bear in mind that in any marriage there will be scary times when your feelings of love will disappear. When that happens you need to remember that marriage is a commitment, a covenant, a promise of a future. You have to go through the motions of love, of caring, of forgiving until you find yourself actually loving and caring and forgiving your spouse in a genuine manner, once again.

Originally posted on http://www.startmarriageright.com/2015/08/rose-colored-glasses/

 

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DYING TOLIVE

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My mom always told me that she believed death would be glorious and that it would be an amazing experience to enter heaven and hear Jesus say “welcome home”.

Ten days ago she heard Him say those words to her in person.

My mom had not been well for a while and had been moved to the Frail Care Centre at the Retirement Home she had been living in for the past 2 years.  My sister and I popped in for a visit on Thursday morning the 11th July and knew immediately that she was dying.  She acknowledged us with a smile and after about an hour of us being there she looked around the room at my sister, myself and 2 nurse aides who were also in the room at the time and very clearly said “I love you all very much”. After that she started to drift in and out of sleep.

My husband went to fetch our three girls from home (it was school holidays) and brought them to her room.  What an amazing time that was.  Our retired minister, Bill and his wife Mary, were also there and we stood and listened and watched as these 3 girls sat on her bed, holding her hands and speaking about the memories that she had made with them – ’remember the time Ouma when…’  or ‘it was so much fun Ouma when we went to…..’

There was a lot of laughter especially when one of our daughters looked around the room at all the people present and said “Well, ouma, you certainly are getting a really good send off” and then added “and you are leaving the world well populated”.  My mom loved just being with her grandchildren and listening to them talk and she often repeated to other family members and friends things they had said.  I could just imagine her saying to Jesus later “and did You hear that wonderful comment about me having a “really good send off”!?

Each girl then said goodbye.  They hugged and kissed her, told her that they loved her and would miss her.

Bill read a scripture to her and prayed and we could see that she was aware of what was happening around her.  Everyone left and it was just my sister and I in the room with her until my brother arrived from Namibia at 4.30.  He had caught the 1:00 o’clock flight from Walvis Bay to Cape Town.

As he sat down beside her and took her hand she opened her eyes and spoke to him. We could not make out the words she was saying but knew that she recognized him  and was at peace that he was there with her.

After that she did not open her eyes again.  The three of us stayed with her.  Every now and again one of us would pray or read a Psalm or just talk quietly.  There was an incredible sense of peace in the room .  My mom died at 6.40 that evening and about 10 minutes before her spirit left her body my brother knelt on the floor took her in his arms and committed her to the Lord giving thanks for her life.

The sms message that I sent to family and friends a little while afterwards simply stated “my mom is in His Presence” because that is exactly where she was.  At home with her Lord, hearing Him say “welcome home, my child”.

My mother believed totally and absolutely in the words that Jesus had spoken whilst He was here on earth

I tell you the truth, whoever hears my word and believes Him who sent me has eternal life and will not be condemned; he has crossed over from death to life.  I tell you the truth, a time is coming and has now come when the dead will hear the voice of the Son of God and those who hear will live” (John 5:24 & 25).

My mom is alive with Christ.

Trevor Hudson once said “…if our deepest confidence is in the God who raised Jesus from the dead, then our sadness will not be trapped in hopelessness and despair.  We will be able to grieve with hope”.

I want to end with the words that one of her grandsons wrote about her:

“Don’t despair at the ending  of life, rejoice at a life well lived and enjoyed.  A life that touched others, that helped nurture others and that helped change the world, even in a small way.”

us and mom

 

Originally posted on http://godspromisebook.blogspot.com/2013/07/dying-to-live.html

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FOUR VITAL INGREDIENTS FOR A LASTING MARRIAGE

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Friedrich Nietzsche once said

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”

For me, this seems to address one of the four root deficits I notice in the majority of unhappy marriages.

  • Lack of Prayer
  • Lack of Friendship
  • Lack of Self-control
  • Lack of Forgiveness

If your desire is for your marriage to survive till you are both old and grey, then it is vital you develop a surplus of each of the preceding four areas.

PRAYER:
A PERSONAL COMMUNICATION OR PETITION ADDRESSED TO GOD IN WORD OR THOUGHT.

When we start to pray earnestly, God changes the negative way we look at our partner and reveals to us our own wrong attitudes.

To say that ‘prayer changes things’ is not as close to the truth as saying, ‘prayer changes me and I change things.’ God has established things so that prayer, on the basis of redemption, changes the way a person looks at things. Prayer is not a matter of changing things externally, but one of working miracles in a person’s inner nature.” —Oswald Chambers

FRIENDSHIP:
A PERSON KNOWN WELL TO ANOTHER AND REGARDED WITH LIKING, AFFECTION, AND LOYALTY; AN INTIMATE; AN ALLY IN A FIGHT OR CAUSE; A SUPPORTER.

The world can be a very harsh place to live in at times and our marriage partner needs to be our ally and our supporter. If it wasn’t for the solid friendship that my husband and I formed before our marriage and during the first two years of married life, our marriage would have ended in divorce.  During the tumultuous times in our marriage we often had to refer back to that friendship in order to try and re-discover why on earth we had married each other! Friendship requires mutual respect for each other.

SELF-CONTROL:
THE ABILITY TO EXERCISE RESTRAINT OR CONTROL OVER ONE’S FEELINGS, EMOTIONS AND REACTIONS.

It takes a lot of self-control not to lash out at someone when you are unhappy with their behavior; however, Galatians 5:22–23 teaches us that “the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

“You can measure the happiness of a marriage by the number of scars that each partner carries on their tongues, earned from years of biting back angry words.” —Elizabeth Gilbert

FORGIVENESS:
TO CEASE TO BLAME OR HOLD RESENTMENT; TO GRANT PARDON FOR A MISTAKE OR WRONGDOING.

Martin Luther King, Jr.once said something that I believe all couples should memorize before they wed:

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies (or our spouses!). — MLK, Jr.

Unforgiveness in a marriage is lethal. If there is unforgiveness in your heart towards your spouse there is no way that your marriage will be able to grow into something that fulfills both of you.

The bottom line in marriage comes down to the fact that if we do what God commands us to do, we will live in one accord with Him and our spouse. As Matthew 6:33 states,

But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

Originally posted on http://www.startmarriageright.com/

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GRACE

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“All the rivers of Your grace I claim,
Over every promise write my name”

From:  Streams in the Desert

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YOU’RE RIGHT ON TRACK!

Photo courtesy of William Carter

Photo courtesy of William Carter

I have recently met a man who practices exactly what he preaches. A man who takes God at His word and who expects blessings to reign on his life because God said they would.

“And if you faithfully obey the voice of the Lord your God, being careful to do all his commandments that I command you today, the Lord your God will set you high above all the nations of the earth.  And all these blessings shall come upon you and overtake you, if you obey the voice of the Lord your God. Blessed shall you be in the city, and blessed shall you be in the field”.   Deuteronomy 28:1-3

This verse applies to each and every person who proclaims Jesus Christ as their Lord.  Why then do so few of us not actively claim this verse and apply it to our own lives?  Why can we not be more like Abraham who “against all hope believed” and because he believed God it was “credited to him as righteousness”.  When told by God he was going to be the father of many nations he did not weaken in his faith, “he faced the fact that his body was as good as dead – since he was about a hundred years old – and that Sarah’s womb was also dead. Yet he did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God, being fully persuaded that God had power to do what he had promised” (Romans 4)

Just imagine what our lives would be like, what miracles we would be performing, how many lives we would be touching, how much love we would have for others if we were only “persuaded that God had power to do what he had promised”.

Well, the man I met recently is one of those few individuals who is persuaded that God has power to do what He has promised.  His name is William D. Carter III and he is doing an internship at our church for a few weeks.  He is a student at  Princeton Theological Seminary in the United States.  In my blog  Meeting Archbishop (Emeritus) Desmond Tutu I wrote about how William had always longed to meet the Bishop and how God had arranged for William and the Bishop to meet.  William has even been given the opportunity to do the Bible reading at two services led by Archbishop Tutu.

Well, the follow on to that, was that William was asked to preach one Sunday night at the Bishop’s church – St George’s Cathedral, Cape Town – blessing upon blessing!

His sermon title was “Be Faithful” and was based on the passage in Matthew 25:14-30 about a man going on a journey who entrusts his property to his servants, and I quote from William’s sermon:

“To one he gave 5 talents, to another he gave 2 talents and to another he gave 1 talent.  Each one he gave to them according to what they could handle. He entrusted his slaves with his wealth, with his money. He did not look for the person who was voted most likely to succeed in Matric or Senior Prefect. He didn’t even give the money to his family members to invest or hold. He entrusted his property to “the least of these.”

Isn’t that like Jesus? We are so unworthy and undeserving; yet, God blesses us in spite of ourselves. He does not give us more than we can handle, but he gives us more than we deserve.

When God has gifted and blessed you in abundance, you must use the talents that have been given to you.”

Men and women like Oswald Chambers, Billy Graham, Martin Luther King Jr, Louie Giglio, Rick Warren, Rosalind Rinker, Beth Moore, Joyce Meyer et al were able and are still able to achieve so much in their lives because they were and are “persuaded that God had power to do what He had promised”. 

That, and the fact that their lives were spent and are being spent copiously reading God’s word and spending constant time in prayer with Him.

We have all received God’s abundant provision of grace and the gift of righteousness through Jesus Christ.  It is up to us to develop these gifts.

I am going to end with William’s words:

“God gives us blessings, opportunities, and moments in our lives that we didn’t even pray for… Unexpected blessings that make us say, “Oh me? Ok”. And, those opportunities come to affirm our destiny and our faithfulness. It is God’s way of saying, “You’re Right On Track!”       

Photo courtesy of William Carter

Photo courtesy of William Carter

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