“God is an awesome, amazing, miracle working God and we are a Supernatural people.” —Brian O’Donnell

The word Supernatural is defined as: “a manifestation or event attributed to some force beyond scientific understanding or the laws of nature… unnaturally or extraordinarily great”

Marriage, purely by definition, is beyond scientific understanding, unnatural and extraordinary, therefore, marriage is definitely supernatural!

You take a man and a woman (bearing in mind the saying men are from Mars and women are from Venus), from different backgrounds, family dynamics, sometimes different cultures, with different habits, traditions, expectations and you put them in the same building—they are expected to sleep together, eat together, live together, have children together and live together forever AND they are meant to do this lovingly, willingly and kindly.

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”—Ephesians 4:2-3

It takes a huge amount of supernatural ability to express those characteristics in the bounds of a marriage!

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”—1 Corinthians 13:4-5

I don’t know about you but I need (and my husband needs) a supernatural, miraculous power working in our lives to be patient, kind, not self-seeking, not easily angered and this pertains especially to me—not to keep a record of wrongs in our marriage.

This is my husband and my 27th year of marriage.

Yesterday morning we had a huge fight—shouting, slamming of doors, sarcasm, anger, the works!

He left the house and was halfway down the road when he realized that he had forgotten something in his haste to leave so had to come back home. I met him in the kitchen and we both burst out laughing.

The fight came out of nowhere, was about something trivial and unimportant, but because we are going through a stressful and challenging time in our lives and work at the moment, we took our frustrations out on each other.

It was a good reminder to start guarding our hearts against anxiety and fear and not to take our stresses out on each other.

In other words, to care for each other with God’s supernatural love. In order to do this, we need to search God’s Word and learn from Him and ask Him to equip us with His supernatural love for our spouses.

“It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God’” —Matthew 4:4

We need to live by God’s word if we want to possess the land God has promised us…the land of good health, happy and fulfilled marriages, Godly children, good businesses, miracles…

We can, with God’s help, change our damaged, mediocre, hurting marriages if we would but only recognize how great we are because we are made supernatural through Jesus Christ.

“We are Supernatural, powerful people who, if we choose too, could live everyday by the Spirit of God in a miraculous way.” –Brian O’Donnell

Our marriages need to be supernatural.

Originally written for and published on https://www.startmarriageright.com/2019/06/a-supernatural-marriage/

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“If you are not a Supernatural Christian, you are not a Christian”

These words were spoken yesterday by a man of God who I have admired for many years, Brian O’Donnell.
He also said:

“God is an awesome, amazing, miracle working God and we are a Supernatural people”

The word Supernatural is defined as:
“a manifestation or event attributed to some force beyond scientific understanding or the laws of nature…
Unnaturally or extraordinarily great”

I am a Christian so I love the fact that my existence is beyond scientific understanding and that I am unnaturally and extraordinarily great because I am a child of the most High God.
A God of miracles.

Brian spoke on Deuteronomy 8.
“Be careful to follow every command I am giving you today, so that you may live and increase and may enter and possess the land the LORD promised on oath to your ancestors…
He humbled you, causing you to hunger and then feeding you with manna, which neither you nor your ancestors had known, to teach you that man does not live on bread alone but on every word that comes from the mouth of the LORD.
Your clothes did not wear out and your feet did not swell during these forty years.”

God led the Israelites through the desert for forty years, and yet, their clothes did not wear out, their feet did not swell, manna was provided fresh every day apart from when they got tired of eating manna and complained… “I have heard the grumbling of the Israelites. Tell them, ‘At twilight you will eat meat, and in the morning, you will be filled with bread. Then you will know that I am the LORD your God.’” That evening quail came and covered the camp…” (Exodus 16:12,13)

What amazing miracles and yet the Israelites, just like us today, got bored with these miracles, stopped noticing them and started complaining.
Brian noted that “the devil tricks us back into normalcy”, we get bored and tired with our everyday amazing lives, our bodies that are so miraculously made, our jobs, our families…and then we start to complain and lose interest in God’s miraculous world.
When we stop looking at and spending time with God we start to move away from God.

Many years after the Israelites entered into the Promised Land, after fasting for forty days and forty nights, the first words Jesus spoke when Satan tempted Him to turn stones into bread were “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God’” (Matthew 4:4)

We need to live by God’s word if we want to possess the land God has promised us…the land of good health, happy and fulfilled marriages, Godly children, good businesses, miracles…

God can take us out of our lifestyle of mediocrity if we would but only recognize how great we are because we are made supernatural through Jesus Christ.

“We are Supernatural, powerful people who, if we choose too, could live everyday by the Spirit of God in a miraculous way.” – Brian O’Donnell

Based on a talk given by Brian O’Donnell at ROTOP, 22/05/2019.  ROTOP – Round Tables Of Prayer, https://web.facebook.com/groups/211216175676927/

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If you must look back, do so forgivingly. If you must look forward, do so prayerfully. However, the wisest thing you can do is to be present in the present. Gratefully. —Maya Angelou

On the 31st of December every year my husband and I go on a date. We find somewhere quiet, away from the house, and we reflect on the year past, discuss the year to come and we pray.

This is not so much time for making practical plans, it is more a time to be still, to meditate on God’s word and to invite Him to please continue being a part of our marriage on a daily basis in the year to come.

In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps. Proverbs 16:9

We are very aware that unless we have God’s input and His blessing on our plans, we are not going to have a good year.  The bedrock of our marriage is God and if He is not acknowledged in our plans our marriage is going to suffer.

We know that left to our own devices we will definitely make a mess of things.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight. —Proverbs 3:5,6

During our 26 years of marriage, we have walked so many crooked paths in our relationship we long for only straight paths!

On the last day of 2018, we went to a retreat center near where we live. There is a tiny little chapel on the grounds and we spent some time together there in silent prayer.

On the door of the chapel was a notice that stated:

Every time you come here you have the opportunity to receive three free gifts – special graces:

  1. The grace of being spiritually at home – of belonging
  2. The grace of inner transformation and change
  3. The grace of a mission – of a purpose and meaning in life

The above gifts apply to marriage as well. We need to be spiritually at home in our marriage, to fully belong to our spouse.

We need to allow ourselves and our spouse the opportunity of inner transformation and change within the marriage.

We need to continually bring a purpose and meaning to our marriages.

I added a fourth gift to give to my marriage this year:

The gift of ‘being present’ — Of making my spouse my priority, of being aware of how he is doing, of consciously respecting him and making him feel valued.

As we give these gifts to our marriages, we also give them to ourselves and to God.

In Jeremiah 29:11-14, God says “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.  You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.  I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back from captivity…”

It is wise to regularly call out to God, to pray to Him and to find out from Him what His plans are for your marriage. As you seek Him together as a couple, He will guide you and if you allow Him too He will lead you out of captivity – captivity to anger, resentment, misunderstandings and hurt that may have become a part of your marriage.

Living in the moment means letting go of the past and not waiting for the future.  It means living your life consciously, aware that each moment you breath is a gift. —Oprah Winfrey

 So I pray that in all our marriages we will consciously let go of the past and treat every moment we have with our spouse as a gift to be treasured.

Originally written for and published on https://www.startmarriageright.com/2019/04/what-gifts-are-you-bringing-to-your-marriage/

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Every person on this earth starts their lives as a blessing! In the Bible, we read that “children are a gift from the Lord – they are a blessing” (Psalm 127). Therefore, no matter what anyone tells you to the contrary or how you may feel, you are a blessing.

We are children of an Almighty God, and we need to start believing that and acting accordingly. God says in His word that “where there is no vision, the people perish” (Proverbs 29:18). We need to ask God to share His vision for our lives with us and to find out what His original plan was for our lives before the world got in the way and some of us fell so far short of what God had planned for us.

Before any of us are born God had already spoken a prophetic word over our lives.  He says in Jeremiah 29:11, “I know the plans I have for you.  Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” We serve a God who has so much compassion for us. He sent His Son to die on the Cross in our place.  Jesus suffered horrific humiliation, He was mocked and bullied, and His friends turned their backs on Him when He needed them most. God knows exactly how sinful we are, how petty and nasty we can be, and yet, He still chose to send His son to die on that Cross.  It is through the death and resurrection of Jesus that we can enter into a relationship with God.  He says, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).

Due to a very fractured childhood – divorce, re-marriage of both my parents, more divorces and re-marriages on my mom’s side and constant moving around as a child and teenager, I didn’t develop into the adult that God had created me to be. I had no sense of self-worth; I struggled with feelings of total inadequacy and had built so many barriers around myself for fear of being hurt I am utterly amazed that my husband even took the time to get to know me never mind marry me! We had been married for 21 years when I asked him what he had seen in me that made him want to marry me.  His answer shocked me.  He said he had seen a wholeness in me.  I was a broken person, and yet, God gave him this image, this vision of wholeness, and through the years because of his love and the fact that he has always treated me as a whole person, I have been able to grow into wholeness.  I am still a work in progress! We are all works in progress.

From the time we are born, God sees us as whole people.  If we have accepted Jesus Christ into our lives, if we are committed to living for Him, God looks at us through the image of Jesus Christ.  “God created man in His own image, in the image of God” (Genesis 1:27).

It doesn’t matter what family we are born into or how we are being raised – if we have committed our lives to Jesus Christ, He treats us as whole human beings, full of potential.  We need to ask God what His vision is for our lives, and then, through His love, we need to start living that vision.

Originally written for and published onhttps://christianchildrensempowerment.com/…/a-work-in-prog…/

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“God asks, “Now, who is willing to consecrate them-self today to the Lord?”
(1 Chronicles 29:5)

If we are serious about serving God we need to spend some time thinking about what our answers will be to the questions God asks us:  “Whom shall I send?”  “Who will go for us?”  “Who is willing to consecrate himself to the Lord”.

If we are willing to volunteer we need to realize that God will shut certain doors and will open new doors for us to walk through.
A friend once said to me:

“I know God is opening doors for me.  I just need to find a new way of walking through them”.  

That resonated with me. I like the idea of finding new ways of walking through the doors God is opening – a new attitude, a new faith, a new hope and a new trust in our Lord Jesus.

Lord, we ask that we will see your hand visibly at work in our lives. That as we seek you with all our hearts we will be aware of the doors you are opening and the doors you are closing and that you will grant us grace to face both the shut doors and the open doors.  Amen

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A few years ago, my husband, Steve, took one of the chairs from the church hall to see whether there was a way he could fix the welding that was coming loose on the chair.
The chair went from his vehicle to outside the kitchen door at his work premises…and there it stayed. It was handy to put things on or to sit on whilst one was having lunch.
Quite a few years passed and every time Steve walked past this chair his conscience would niggle. By now the chair was well used and worn and the niggling was starting to get worse.

Psalm 33:4 states “For the word of the Lord is right and true; He is faithful in all He does”.
Steve’s conscious really began to bother him as he realized he had not been faithful in seeing whether the chair could be fixed and then returning it to church.

Last week whilst driving to a customer he passed a little antique shop displaying various items of furniture outside it’s door and one of the items was the exact same chair. Steve parked and went inside. He did a double take when the owner told him what the chair was selling for.
R300 – we live in South Africa and that is a lot of money.

The conversation that followed went something like this:

Steve: “That’s a lot of money for a little chair!”
Owner: “I know, but just look at the workmanship, look at how old it is”
Steve: “I don’t care how old it is, that’s still a lot of money. I better take it though”.
Owner: “If you don’t mind me asking, why do you want this particular chair and why are you prepared to pay so much money for it”.

Steve explained the story about having taken the chair from church and never returning it and the fact that it was now too shoddy looking to return so he needed to replace it.

Steve: “God says in His word that in all our ways we need to be honest and to fulfill the commitments we make and my conscience is really getting the better of me now so I need to sort this matter out”.
Owner: “Are you a church goer?”
Steve: “Yes and a follower of Jesus Christ”.
Owner: “Well, I am also a Christian and your story has been an amazing witness to me. I tell you what, you can have it for R200”.

Maybe the owner’s conscience was also beginning to niggle about the prices he was charging being a bit high.

Steve loves the Lord, he wants God to be honoured through the way he lives his life. He is finding that the more he acknowledges God in his daily dealings with people the more God is revealing to him the truth in the following verse:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight” Proverbs 3:5,6

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“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” – George Bernard Shaw

This quote basically sums up the root cause of divorce. We say something to our spouse and we are under the illusion that they have heard and understood what we have said, when in actual fact, they have misinterpreted what was said or were distracted at the time and did not hear properly or what was said triggered an emotional response relating to something in their past and instead of concentrating on the words, they are thinking of past hurts or thinking of a response before hearing the full sentence.

I am convinced that the writer of Proverbs 18:13 had married couples in mind when he penned these words: “To answer before listening – that is folly and shame”.

We have to learn to listen to the emotion behind the words, to observe facial expressions and to actively concentrate on the words being spoken. James 1:19 puts it succinctly: “My dear brothers and sisters (spouses) take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”

We also need to listen in context to the history of the relationship.

When we learn to communicate effectively it leads to a deeper intimacy and understanding of each other and this deepens and adds immense value to the relationship.

Communication between spouses stands for so much.

C – commitment. We need to be dedicated to each other. Marriage between two Believers should only end when one spouse dies. Divorce is not an option.

O – openness. We need to allow our spouse access into our thoughts. There has to be total honesty between you.

M – magnify. We need to praise our spouse. Boost their egos and adore them.

M – mutual. We need to share feelings and emotions.

U – understanding. We need to be perceptive, appreciative and aware of our spouse at all times.

N – naked. We need to expose our deepest feelings and emotions to our spouse. We also need to make time to be physically naked and enjoy sexual intimacy with our partner.

I – interested. We need to be responsive, intent and excited towards our spouse.

C – caring. We need to be compassionate, kind and considerate at all times.

A – attitude. We need to work at being positive at all times. We definitely need God’s help on this one!

T – transparent. We need to be straight forward, candid and direct and hide nothing.

I – if. If in a marriage is usually followed by only – ‘if only’. If needs to be banned from our vocabulary.

O – ours. We need to claim the marriage relationship as ‘ours’.

N – negotiate. We need to discuss, debate and consult each other.

“Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words.”

― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Originally written for Start Marriage Right and published on


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This past week I found myself in the presence of someone who literally made me feel as though I was standing in the Presence of God.
She was a Sister of Mercy nun and her face radiated a peace, a sense of well-being, a joy that could only have come from her spending many hours in the presence of God.

Obviously, His Presence had rubbed off on her because she was beautiful – a physical and inner beauty. When she looked at me, I felt that she really saw me – not just as a person but as a child of God.

The care home, a building belonging to the Missionaries of Charity, is in Khayelitsha, a partially informal township, in Cape Town, South Africa.

In 1988 Mother Teresa herself approved the Khayelitsha site with these words:
“We have come to give tender loving care to the poor, to the people who have nothing, the forgotten ones…”

We had gone to visit an elderly friend who has fallen on hard times and is basically bedridden. The Sisters of Mercy have welcomed him into their care home and are looking after him.

A Sister of Mercy must abide by the vows of chastity, poverty and obedience and wholehearted free service to the poor. They “love and serve God in the distressing disguise of the poorest of the poor, both materially and spiritually, recognizing in them and restoring to them the image and likeness of God by nursing the sick, the dying and destitute.”1

“A sister’s few possessions include: three saris (one to wear, one to wash, one to mend), two or three cotton habits, a girdle, a pair of sandals, a crucifix, and a rosary. They also have a plate, a set of cutlery, a cloth napkin, a canvas bag, and a prayer book.”2

The Sister we met was from Spain, she must be in her late twenties and I felt humbled at the thought of how she has physically, emotionally and spiritually dedicated her whole life to the Lord, the destitute, the outcast, the sick, the forgotten…

One of the qualification requirements to be a sister is that you have to be of cheerful disposition.
Our Sister from Spain definitely met that qualification in abundance.

She touched me deeply when she asked me what our friend and we believed. What was the bedrock of our faith? What brought us comfort in our faith?
She asked this because she wanted to know what would comfort our friend.
She explained that it was not the Sister of Mercy’s job to convert anyone to their faith. Their only job was to serve all they met as Jesus served and to trust that in this way the person being served would see God and come to know Him.

References: 1 & 2 http://www.motherteresa.org/active-sisters.html

Photos of Imizamo Yethu Township



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 A week ago, one of our daughter’s, had her life all planned out for the next three years.

She was going to join the Open University in the United Kingdom and study for a BA.

A huge amount of planning and thought had gone into preparation for the next three years and she was all set to commence studying and start the next phase of her life’s journey. She just had to put the payment through…and that was when everything unraveled.

She was informed that she had missed the deadline to register for her course and therefore she would not be able to study but she could reapply again in October.  Due to some miscommunication, her course had not been registered because she had not completed the final application.

To say she, and we, were devastated is putting it very mildly.  We were devastated for her because it looked like her dreams would have to be put on hold for ten months and she would now have to find something to do for that time.  She was devastated because her heart was set on starting studying in March and her whole life for the next three years was geared around her studying and now, she was at a total loss.

Being her parents, the first thing we said was that we would pray about the situation, pray that the University would extend grace to her and pray that she would still be able to follow her dreams.

A weekend of real despair followed with said daughter phoning and sending various emails to the University asking/begging that her application be accepted.

This morning she received an email advising that due to the miscommunication between her and the University they have accepted her application and she will be allowed to start studying.

When she informed me of this earlier today my first response, obviously, was “thank God He answered our prayers.  How wonderful of Him”.

Said daughter is in the process of still making up her mind whether there is a God or not but she admitted that when her application was declined, she made Him a promise.  She promised God that if He made a way for her to be accepted at the University, she would go to church every single Sunday for the remainder of the time she is in Amsterdam.

Well, I couldn’t stop laughing…

This means that because she never breaks a promise, she will be going to church every Sunday for the next few weeks. That is about six Sundays in all.

“Truly, O God of Israel, our Saviour, You work in mysterious ways”. (Isaiah 45:15 NLT)

Written with said daughter’s permission.

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Today I received the following “What’s App” text from my husband:

“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” —Ruth Bell Graham

I replied:

“We obviously have a happy marriage then—we both have to forgive so much all the time!”

God, repentance, and forgiveness are three of the most vital ingredients needed in a relationship if you are going to have a happy and fulfilled marriage.

“Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.” —Peter Ustinov

We need to develop the habit of forgiveness and tenderness in our marriages.

When we announced our marriage, our home fellowship group at that time gave us a card with the following words inscribed on it:

“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” —Matthew 6:33 (NAS Bible)

That card hangs on the wall in our hallway and I often find myself standing before it reflecting on what those words mean in the context of a marriage.

Righteousness in its simplest form means doing what is right, just, and fair.

I often don’t behave towards my husband in a fair and just manner and vice versa—we both become distracted by our work, family responsibilities and what we are lacking in our own lives instead of concentrating on each other’s needs. When we start focusing on each other we find that our work, raising our children and our worries become far more manageable as we discuss them together and support each other. In other words, all these things—peace, communication, unity are added to us.

In the scriptures, Jesus compared the kingdom of God to a mustard seed:

Then Jesus asked, “What is the kingdom of God like? What shall I compare it to? It is like a mustard seed, which a man took and planted in his garden. It grew and became a tree, and the birds perched in its branches.” —Luke 13:18–19

Godly marriages, to me, are synonymous with the mustard seed.

The seed needs to be planted in fertile soil—our hearts need to be prepared to nurture and care for the heart of our spouse.

Proverbs 4:23 states “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

Just as the soil needs to be ‘guarded’ against pollution and worms, our hearts need to be guarded against feelings of jealousy, anger, resentment, and boredom.

The seed needs to be watered and fertilized—attention and care need to be spent on it. The same is true of marriage. We need to spend time with each other, loving and building each other up lest the marriage withers and dies from lack of attention.

As we nurture each other in the marriage, our marriage can grow into a wonderful force and power that will be a safe haven, a place of shelter for our children and others to find refuge in and under. A place of shade, rest and peace.

Just as the birds of the air perch in the branches of the mustard tree, Godly marriages need to have branches that will support our children and other marriages.

Marriage should be a place of sanctuary and peace not a battlefield of resentment and anger.

The apostle Paul states very clearly that the kingdom of heaven needs to be present in our lives on a daily basis: “For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.” (Romans 14:17)

Our marriages should be filled with righteousness, peace, and joy.

And just as Christ’s kingdom will endure forever our marriages need to endure till death us do part.

Originally written for Start Marriage Right and published on http://www.startmarriageright.com/

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