ANSWERED PRAYERS……..

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I came across this prayer the other day that one of our daughters wrote many, many years ago when they were nine years old:

Pleace lord convince our dad to get us a hamster, gineepig, mouse or parrot.  Amen

Well, God convinced him to ‘get’ them rabbits!

We have always had a dog!

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HOW EASILY WE FALL FROM GRACE IN OUR CHILDRENS’ EYES

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I am, and always have been, a firm believer in the following verse “But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret.”  (Matthew 6:3,4)

For the purposes of this story, however, I am going to discount that advice this once!

During the week my twelve year old daughter and I were browsing in a bookshop.  I noticed a lady standing next to us, she was neatly dressed but you could see that she was not wealthy by any means.  As I watched her she took a Bible from the shelf, looked at the front cover, turned it around and just held it for a while and then she put it back on the shelf.  She looked at some other books and then went back to the same shelf and repeated her actions with the Bible and then, with a sigh, she put it back.

I turned to her and asked her whether I could buy her a Bible?  She looked at me and nodded.  I took the Bible from the shelf that she had been looking at, it was a King James version, and asked her if this was the one.  She nodded her head and then told me it was far too expensive.

I told her not to worry and went to the counter with her, paid for the Bible and handed it to her with a hug and a “God bless you”.

She did not say a word – just looked at me in disbelief.

My daughter and I turned to walk out of the shop and she ran after us and asked me my name.  I told her, gave her another quick hug and then walked on.

She stood there looking after us as if she had just seen an angel – believe me, she certainly had not!

As we walked out the shop my daughter said to me “Mom, that was such a lovely thing that you just did for that lady”.  I explained to her that we do not give ‘sacrificially’ and that compared to the financial status of the lady in the bookshop, we were very wealthy.

Wealth is totally relative to your circumstances.  To someone living in a squatter camp in a tin shanty with no running water, electricity or inside toilet, the person who lives in a township in a brick house and has water on tap is extremely wealthy. Now to that person someone who lives in a suburb and has both running water, electricity and a car is wealthy beyond measure compared to them.  The list goes on and on.

We had just had a breakfast in a restaurant (even though we had plenty of food at home) for the same price that the Bible cost.  I can almost guarantee you that the lady in the bookshop has never had a meal in a restaurant because her money goes towards just being able to put food on the table.

Later that morning we went into another shop to return an electronic item that was giving problems.  We were sent from one area to another.  There were only two staff on duty in a huge electronics department – one had disappeared and the other one was busy and the general standard of service was deplorable.  Needless to say, I became very impatient and abrupt with the person who finally served us.  I have a feeling my daughter felt I was being rude – I think my behavior fell just short of being rude but I certainly would not get into a debate about it with her as I have a feeling she would win!

As we were walking out the shop my daughter turned to me and said “Well, Mom, you certainly have cancelled out the good deed you did this morning”.

I was mortified, I wanted to crawl under a stone and stay there for the rest of the day.

She was right and it was a good reminder to me that our bad attitudes and behavior do cancel out our good deeds.

I felt, in that moment, that this verse in Revelation was written about me “…for I have not found your deeds complete in the sight of my God”.

It is so easy to do a good deed but so difficult not to swear at people driving recklessly or to not be rude to shop assistants when their service is lousy.

Matthew 5:16 states “…let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.”

Thank you daughter of mine for that reminder!

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FROM MY DAUGHTER…….

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Was shown this by my daughter with the comment “This so applies to you and I, Mom!”  There is an inkling of truth in there somewhere ………..

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BEING UPHELD…..

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“My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no-one can snatch them out of my hand”.  John 10:27 -28

“If the Lord delights in a man’s way, He makes his steps firm; though he stumble, he will not fall, for the Lord upholds him with His hand”.       Psalm 37:23-24

God holds us so tightly in the palm of His hand that nothing or no-one will ever be able to snatch us out of His hand. There is immense security in the knowledge that we are held safely in His hand.

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OUR ‘BABIES’ ARE THREE WEEKS OLD TODAY

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Just had to show them off!

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DIVORCE HURTS KIDS (WHO THEN GROW INTO HURT ADULTS)

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This blog IS for the mothers and fathers who have divorced and then ‘abandoned’ their children somewhere along the road of life.

It is NOT for the mothers and fathers who have divorced and have struggled through their own pain to love and comfort and care for their children.  Those are the parents “who love beyond themselves”.

I posted a poem entitled “I never knew you” to Facebook.  Within days it had been shared 300 times and there were 131 comments made on the post and many more on the shared pages.

Teenagers and grownups are suffering because of divorce.

The following are a few of the comments that were made:

I sent this to my dad, and didn’t even get a reply

I feel exactly like this…but I thought I was the only one with this feeling

I knw d feeling,m feeling it ryt nw.I so wish he could read ths

I feel de same way and i always wanted som1 to tell my story thanks

Reading this with tears in М̣̣̥̇̊Ɣ eyes!! _ knowing that God is restoring households!! and mending broken hearts!!

I wish the father of my child could read this

Mmm X wens die vaders kn dt lees en besef wter leed hlle an hulle kinders doen (mmm I wish the fathers could read this and see the damage they are doing to their children)

I wish that all father’s can read this and understand what these children go through in life

I wish my dad can read this

How many fathers don’t want to know or acknowledge their children or want only to be part of certain children’s lives the others must carry on. I see the hurt the children suffer because their father has rejected one the others he accepted. Sad. God must deal with them.

Ouers dat dit n eye opener vir julle wees Di is regtig hartseer (Parents let this be an eye opener It is really heart sore)

Story of my life

It’s like you are talking to my dad

This is only 13 comments out of a 131 and in the time it has taken me to copy these comments 11 more comments have been made.

The wonderful news for me and these teenagers and adults is the fact that:

God, however, has seen every tear that we have cried and He has lovingly “recorded all my tears and preserved them in His bottle! He recorded every one in His book” (Psalms 56:8)

How wonderful is that – God has seen and recorded every tear we have ever cried and with compassion in His heart has collected those tears and kept them, and us, close to His heart.
He is also the One who “will wipe away all tears” (Isaiah 25:8)

Jesus came into this world “to BIND UP the broken-hearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, ….to COMFORT all who mourn, and PROVIDE for those who GRIEVE…to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of GLADNESS instead of MOURNING, and a garment of PRAISE instead of a spirit of DESPAIR” (Isaiah 61:1-3)

God is our HEAVENLY FATHER and Jesus our COMFORTER

I NEVER KNEW YOU

Just because I’m not with you,
Does not mean I’m not here.
Just because I am a child,
Does not mean you can forget me.
I’ve got a right to know what you are doing,
I’ve got a right to expect to be loved by you.
I want to be part of your life,
I want to be needed by you.
But you will never need me,
You are too self-contained.
Just because I’m not with you,
Just because I cannot share your life,
Does not mean I don’t love you,
Does not mean I don’t need you.
Sometimes I watch a father and a child,
Laughing together,
At something only they can see.
We will never be able to share that kind of feeling,
Because I don’t know you and you don’t know me.
And it’s too late now to understand each other,
Because when we meet,
We are strangers -and yet- you gave me life.

“The Sovereign Lord will wipe away the tears from all faces”
Isaiah 25:8

Extract from “God’s Promise for Families”

 

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ON BEING A WRITER ………..

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The other day my daughter and I were driving through the Karoo in South Africa.  The scenery and the clouds in the sky looked amazing.  So very beautiful.

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I turned to my daughter and said “I would love to be able to paint.  To have the ability to paint a scene like this must be incredible”.  She replied “But you are a painter, Mom, you paint pictures with words“.

That was one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me!

Thank you precious daughter of mine xxx

 

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A LETTER FROM GOD TO ME …………

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Dear Noelene

Now, this is what I am saying to you.  Don’t be afraid, because I have saved you.  I have called you by name, and you are Mine.  When you pass through the water, I will be with you.  When you cross rivers, you will not drown.  When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned, nor will the flames consume you.  this is because I, the Lord, am you God.  You are precious to Me, because I give you honor and love you.

We live in this world; therefore, we are going to have difficult times.  God has given each one of us freedom of choice; some of the decisions we make will be wrong and we must face the consequences of those decisions.  Sometimes circumstances will be beyond our control – people we love will hurt us.  However, God has given us His assurance He will be with us through everything. God’s letter to me went on to say:

Don’t be afraid because I am with you.  I formed you and made you for My glory.  I chose you so you would know and believe Me; so you would understand I am the true God.  I, Myself, am the Lord, I am the only Saviour.  I, Myself, have spoken, saved, and told you these things.  I will send armies to Babylon for you, and I will knock down all its locked gates.

Babylon was a nation during Old Testament times – one of the nations that held the people of God (the Jews) in captivity.  In Scripture (particularly prophecy), Babylon is often used to represent opposition to God that leads to bondage.  The things in our lives that hold us in bondage – alcoholism, pride, unforgiveness, eating disorders, fear of the future, guilt over the past, etc. – are considered our “Babylon”.  Our Babylon usually blocks God’s good and perfect will in our lives.

God promises He will release us and set us free with His armies knocking down the bondages in our lives.  He will open gates we have locked against Him because of sin, worries, and insecurities.  He will make a way of escape from the bondages that try to hold us hostage.  We must grasp this truth:  We are not on our own.  God will actually send in His armies to destroy the chains sin has on our lives, so we can live every day to the full.  His letter to me concludes:

Forget what happened before, and do not think about the past.  Look at the new thing I am going to do.  It is already happening.  Don’t you see it?  I will make a road in the desert of your life, rivers in the dry land of your life, and you will sing songs of praise to Me.  Noelene, I am the One who forgives all your sins, for My name sake: for My name sake I will not remember your sins.  Love God, your Heavenly Father

(Isaiah 43:1-18, paraphrased)

Extract from the book “God’s Promise for Families”

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DIVORCE – A TEENAGER IN PAIN – A POEM

This poem was written more than thirty-four years ago, but the words and feelings behind them remain relevant to children whose parents are divorced and who only see their fathers on a part-time basis.

I NEVER KNEW YOU

Just because I’m not with you,

Does not mean I’m not here.

Just because I am a child,

Does not mean you can forget me.

I’ve got a right to know what you are doing,

I’ve got a right to expect to be loved by you.

I want to be part of your life,

I want to be needed by you.

But you will never need me,You  are too self-contained.

Just because I’m not with you,

Just because I cannot share your life,

Does not mean I don’t love you,

Does not mean I don’t need you.

Sometimes I watch a father and a child,

Laughing together,

At something only they can see.

We will never be able to share that kind of feeling,

Because I don’t know you and you don’t know me.

And it’s too late now to understand each other,

Because when we meet,

We are strangers -and yet- you gave me life.

“The Sovereign Lord will wipe away the tears from all faces”
Isaiah 25:8

Extract from  “God’s Promise for Families”

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(SIGH!) SO TRUE ………..

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